Critical Mistakes to Avoid During Your Divorce

The process of divorce is inherently one of the most stressful and emotionally draining experiences a person can face. Navigating this period requires not only emotional resilience but also careful, strategic action to protect your interests and the well-being of your family. While our previous post detailed the essential steps to take for a positive outcome, it is equally important to understand the common pitfalls that can complicate proceedings, increase costs, and inflict lasting damage.

At Simon Law Group, our extensive experience in Arizona family law has shown us that certain behaviors can be profoundly detrimental to a case. This guide is dedicated to the critical "Don'ts" of divorce - the actions you must consciously avoid maintaining control and work toward a fair and efficient resolution.

Don't Attempt to Navigate Divorce Alone 

One of the most significant errors an individual can make is underestimating the legal complexities of a divorce proceeding. The emotional toll of ending a marriage can cloud judgment, making it exceedingly difficult to advocate for oneself effectively. Attempting to handle a divorce without professional guidance often leads to unfavorable settlements, overlooked legal rights, and prolonged disputes.

A professional and experienced family lawyer from Simon Law Group provides more than just legal knowledge; we offer objective counsel during a tumultuous time. An expert legal advocate is your most valuable asset in cutting through the confusion, ensuring all paperwork is filed correctly, deadlines are met, and your rights are protected at every stage. Retaining expert counsel is the surest way to secure a fast and fair result, allowing all parties to feel that justice was served and begin moving forward with their lives.

Don't Engage in Combative or Threatening Behavior 

During a high-conflict divorce, tensions are understandably high. However, succumbing to anger and engaging in combative behavior will only work against you. Actions such as sending hostile text messages, making threats, or posting inflammatory comments on social media can be used as evidence by the opposing side. These materials can be presented to the court to paint you as unstable, uncooperative, or even a threat.

Such behavior can provide the other party’s attorney with ammunition to file new motions against you or to appeal decisions. It is imperative to maintain a composed and business-like demeanor in all interactions. Remember that every communication, whether written or verbal, can potentially become part of the official court record. By refusing to engage in conflict, you protect your legal standing and demonstrate to the court that you are a reasonable and level-headed individual.

Don't Place Your Children in the Middle 

For parents, protecting the emotional health of their children during a divorce is the highest priority. Unfortunately, it is all too common for children to be caught in the crossfire. Using your children as messengers to communicate with your ex-spouse, interrogating them for information about the other parent’s household, or speaking negatively about your ex-spouse in their presence can cause significant and lasting psychological harm.

Arizona courts place a very strong emphasis on the best interests of the child. A parent who is seen to be alienating a child from the other parent or using them as a pawn in the divorce will be viewed unfavorably. It is your responsibility to foster a loving and supportive relationship between your children and both parents, regardless of your personal feelings. Demonstrate your maturity and commitment to co-parenting by shielding your children from adult conflicts.

Don't Dismiss the Option of Mediation 

While some divorces require litigation, ruling out mediation from the start is often a mistake. Divorce mediation in Arizona is a process where a neutral third-party mediator helps both spouses negotiate the terms of their divorce, including property division, parenting plans, and support. Due to the state’s legal amendments encouraging shared parenting and cooperative resolutions, courts highly recommend that spouses attempt to work out their differences outside of a formal trial.

Mediation can be less adversarial, more cost-effective, and faster than traditional litigation. It also gives you and your spouse more control over the final outcome, rather than leaving critical decisions in the hands of a judge. Exploring this option does not preclude you from going to court if an agreement cannot be reached, but it provides a valuable opportunity to resolve matters amicably. For a more complete overview of best practices, reviewing a list of comprehensive divorce do's and don'ts can be highly beneficial.

Don't Be Afraid to Seek Professional Advice 

Divorce is a painful event that can devastate self-esteem and create constant doubt about your rights and the correct course of action. It is entirely normal to feel overwhelmed and uncertain. Do not let fear or pride prevent you from seeking the professional advice you need. This extends beyond legal counsel to include financial advisors and mental health professionals who can provide support during this difficult transition.

The legal team at Simon Law Group understands the immense pressure you are under. With over 80 years of combined experience in the Maricopa County court system, we are prepared to handle the most sensitive and complex cases. We provide the clarity and confidence you need to make informed decisions.

Avoid Costly Errors with Expert Legal Guidance 

Navigating a divorce successfully is as much about what you don't do as what you do. By avoiding these common mistakes, you can protect your legal interests, preserve your emotional well-being, and create a smoother path toward your new future.

If you are facing a divorce in Arizona, do not hesitate to secure the representation of a skilled legal team. The attorneys at Simon Law Group are dedicated to providing the authoritative guidance and steadfast support required in high-stakes family law matters.

Contact us today to schedule a free consultation and learn how we can help you avoid these critical missteps and achieve the best possible outcome.